Motherhoodbythesea Meets Theproseccomum
- Where were you born and what do you love most about your hometown? – I was born in Leicester many years ago but left there when I was 8. From there, we moved to Suffolk before heading to Salisbury when I was 12, Mum and Dad still live there and I’m just outside of Southampton in a place called Chandlers Ford.
- How many children do you have and how old are they?Two. One little diva, Sofia, who is four and my little mummy’s boy, Arlo, who is almost one.
- How would you describe yourself in 3 words?Honest. Loyal. Knackered.
- In what ways are your children like you/not like you?Stubborn, loud and temperamental are some of the unlucky traits they have picked up from me – there’s no hope for them! They’re also fairly sensitive, loving when they want to be and have an unhealthy love for food, especially snacks.
- What is your earliest childhood memory?
My earliest and clearest memory is pushing my childhood friend, and neighbour’s, ‘Sarah doll’ up and down the street in my Silver Cross pram pretending it was ‘our baby’. And setting up a tuck shop outside the front of our row of terraced houses…with not much success!
- When you were little what did you want to be when you grew up?
I just really wanted to ride a horse to America and be Macaulay Culkin’s wife.
- Tell me about the happiest time of your childhood?
I’m so lucky that I had a fantastic childhood and grew up surrounded by amazing family and friends – and this really has continued into later life. I don’t have one defining happy moment! [Sorry that sounds so saccharine sweet doesn’t it!?]
- Tell me about the worst/hardest time from your childhood?
There wasn’t anything horrendous that has happened, I guess the hardest was moving towns and schools when I was in Year 7 – having to meet and make completely new friends from scratch who had all known each other for a year already. That, and losing my Take That wallet that I’d just got from their concert.
- What kind of girl were you in high school?Middle of the road – not geeky, not massively cool. Always in trouble for distracting others and not listening.
- If you could go back to school now what would you do differently?
Not wear patent white shoes with a heel. And think I was cool.
- Who were your role models growing up/who are your role models now?
I didn’t really have any; I had a lot of idols though. I loved Take That and The Spice Girls (first time round!). My idols now aren’t celebrities or people in the public eye but those who face difficulties but get over them.
- What did you/do you love most about your mother?She’s not a ‘pushy’ mum, she just loves us for us. Which I think is one of the most important traits as a mum.
- What traits of your mother do you think you have inherited?
We’re both not massively maternal, we like having a good time and spending quality time with our friends. I’ve got the party side from my mum that’s for sure.
- What has been the happiest moment of your life so far?
There are so many happy ‘moments’ that make up so many big ones. The happiest moments of my life have to be finally getting my baby brother when I was 10 (I’d been asking Santa for a long time!), being lucky enough to become a mama to my two gorgeous children Sofia & Arlo, and then getting married with all of our friends and family around us.
- The saddest?
I don’t have any defining ‘sad’ moments, sure I’ve been sad and upset at various times throughout my life but thankfully, nothing too major just yet.
- The scariest?
Definitely becoming a mama! Nothing can prepare you for it – the emotion, the worry, the responsibility. You love them so much and the thought of anything happening to them is unthinkable.
- Do you have any regrets?
I wish I hadn’t been so silly with money in my younger days, but on the flip side I had a great time spending it. I’d love to say I’ve learnt my lesson but as my husband will tell you – I really haven’t. I’m a complete .
- What is the best piece of advice you were ever given?
That when it comes to parenting - not to listen to any advice! Lorraine from ‘The Secret Mum Blog’ shared her piece of advice on my blog the other day and it really resonated with me “Set a good routine like a jelly. It will wobble from time to time but it will always bounce back!”
Also – mums are always right. As much as the teenage me would never admit it, it’s so true!
- How did becoming a mother change you?In. Many. Ways. Namely by stopping the lie-ins.
- What is your best piece of advice for new mums?
No one has a text book baby and don’t listen to any advice – you know your own baby! And before that, have an idea of how you’d like the birth to go but don’t worry if it doesn’t work out the way you’ve written it down in your yellow notes.
- How would you want people to remember you if you were gone?
I’d like my children to remember me as a fun, loving mum that did everything in their best interest and didn’t just whinge, moan and shout at them.
- What are the 3 most important things you want to teach your children?
Trust. Respect. Fun.
- If you could go anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would you go and who with?
Honestly? I’d go for a few nights away with my husband without the kids. I’d then be greedy and send him back to the kids and have a few nights away with my girls!
- What’s one thing you would done differently before getting married/having kids?
Nothing. Having my first baby at 30 meant I had done most of the things I wanted to do before she arrived.
- What is the hardest thing about being a mum? What’s the best thing?
The hardest thing about becoming a mum is the complete game changing bundle that suddenly crash lands and turns your life upside down. Nothing prepares you for it. You don’t get time for yourself, you have to think of someone else always, you can’t just ‘pop out’ anywhere and you’re shattered – there’s also a lot of worry having someone depend on you permanently. The best thing, really, is all of it. Creating little people is pretty special.